Four times in the last week I’ve come to this space with something I thought was important to say.
Four times in the last week I’ve stopped myself before hitting publish.
This space of mine is just that. A space I come for some free therapy. A space I come to when I want to share my heart and soul. This space is mine.
And those stories I wanted to tell? They weren’t 100% mine to tell. They involved tales of when friendship gets too messy and I want to run away instead of fight. They involve tales another horrible no good terrible day, similar to this one.
They involved a play by play account of what happened when Malone woke up from a random afternoon nap, insisted it was morning, and tantrumed for 30 minutes after learning it was still the afternoon. I wanted so badly to pull out my iPhone and record it. He was so adorably irrational. Even more than that, I wanted to put it on Facebook for all of our friends and family to see- because I know they’d think it was adorable.
I am a real person. I have real feelings and my own character flaws. I need to give and receive grace. I can’t in good spirit and heart use this space of mine to share a story that I think might someday hurt someone else’s feelings. And along those same lines, I will not use social media for unkind words or passive aggressive status updates.
There are stories to tell within this space. And there are stories better left unsaid. There are things to share and things best kept private.
Mama said it best, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
Do you struggle with what you share on your blog or via your social media outlets? Is anything off limits? I’d love to hear more in your comments below.
Yes I try to stay away from anything that will offend (although I am sure I will at some point, because we all have opinions after all) and I try not to post anything that will show my family in a bad light, because at the end of the day, its simply a fleeting moment in time, and relationships with family are forever.
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There are quite a few things that I don’t post on my blog and I try not to include my entire family and our issues. I try and keep it light and fun but I know that what I see as cute and funny might one day turn out not to be quite so cute and funny. And that quote said it best, if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. It’s why if I happen upon a blog that isn’t too kid friendly I just log off. The great thing about the internet is you don’t need to stay if you’re not comfortable. A simple click is all that’s needed. 🙂
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I think that using discernment like that on the internet is so important. Once you hit publish you can never take it back. Even hitting the delete button doesn’t completely remove it from cyberspace. I try to be careful about what I post and don’t on every site I am on. Those adorable moments are to be cherished but not always shared.
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Such self-restraint you showed! I struggle ALL THE TIME! But the bottomline for me is that I left one blog where I felt I wasn’t being authentic and true to who I need to be right now in order to become the woman that God wants me to be. Sometimes I say things I shouldn’t, but it’s my journey and I need to lead it. I get what you’re saying though. I have blogged without integrity in the past, and since beginning this new blog, although I lost a lot of popularity with the path I chose, I enjoy writing more now than I ever did before. And the words flow far more easily. I do thank you for this reminder though that some things do need to be kept private. Excellent post!
I think I go to the other extreme of hardly sharing anything and that maybe makes my blog a little boring and safe, and sometimes, I don’t really know why I’m blogging… LOL.
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I agree! I have a lot of those stories swirling around in the forefront of my mind, but no good will come out of me writing them and publishing on the blog. Not everything needs to be published!
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For sure. There are posts I have in draft that will never see the light of day. I typed them out because that’s how I process things, but not everything is something I need to share with everyone.
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