Confession time. Over the weekend my husband and I had a pretty big miscommunication that lead to some pretty big hurt feelings. Our house was (who am I kidding.. is) a disaster. We’ve got a newborn, a preschooler, and just about ZERO storage space. You do the math.
I spent most of the day seething until all of those big ugly feelings came out. I was TRYING to ask for help nicely. But my tone told a different story. After I exploded at him and apologized, my husband reminded me that he’s not a mind reader. It is OKAY to ask for what I need help with, especially around the house.
I had been avoiding telling him exactly what I wanted done because I didn’t want to sound like a nag. Big girl panties lesson learned- People do not live inside of my head. I need to ASK for what I need.
Great takeaway from this experience. Thanks for sharing!
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I’m always afraid of sounding like a nag, too! It’s terrible and I need to get over it. LOL.
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Maybe I need to just make a running list of things that I’d like done and hang it up on the fridge. Then I can nag the both of us at the same time…
I do the same thing! It’s all about the tone!
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TONE is such a hard one for me to begin with! And then to add a frustrated spirit on top of it.. watch out.
I find I have this problem more with men than with women. “I told you I had a really bad day and you didn’t say anything.” “But you didn’t tell me I HAD to say anything.” And, I’m married to a man. So, welcome to my world.
I think that doing this is going to take a bit of practice for me. I mean, I don’t want to overwhelm him with things I want him to do. But at the same time, I need HELP!
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This one is so hard for me! I think that people should be able to tell when I need a hand. Or that they should notice that something needs doing. Thanks for the reminder!
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I think it is super hard for most of us! That is why I went with it first!
Thanks, NJ. I needed that reminder.
I’m enjoying reading your 31 Days series; you seriously crack me up!
Thanks for putting on your big girl panties for the rest of us!
I am so glad I can make you laugh!
I relate to this SO much – it was a big AHA moment when I started dating again in my late 20s. Men (among, you know, everyone) will NEVER know what I want of/from them unless I speak up. So easy and yet it was such a revelation to me. Saved a lot of potential arguments with my last long term, live-in boyfriend. I’d get boiling mad over various little things but realized I was just automatically expecting him to know/get it. Another big DUH moment for me 😉
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